Emma

July 01, 2010 @ (arizona)

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My boyfriend and I had been together 9 months. We'd known each other and been really in love for almost 2 years. I gave him absolutely all of me. We really were great together and always had fun and showed each other how much we were in love. He always told me how he wanted to marry me and how much he loved me. Everything was going great until one week he had phone issues. He never tried to contact me in any way. When he did get his phone back, he still didn't at least text me and say he'd call me later or anything. So after going from speaking everyday or just getting an "i love you" text from him, which was always enough for me and made me feel so amazing, he went to zero communication. Who wouldn't "freak out"? I tried contacting him and got nothing. Anyway, I went to see what was going on and he told me he wanted a break and started naming off all these silly previous fights that he had already apologized for and I had forgiven and moved on. He said how I ask too much of him, which he lives 2 hours away, and he had always been able to find time to call me or just text me each day, and if a day or two went by, I was okay with that because I do know how busy he really is. Anyway, after saying all that I had finally agreed to a break. I asked if he wanted to break up and he said no, just a break for a few weeks because he didn't have time for this.
A month has gone by and I had tried to contact him out of desperation for answers the first two weeks. I have not tried to contact him for the past 2 weeks and I will not. I sent him a pour my heart out, this is what really happened with all the silly fights, and do you really love me if you're throwing away what we had...and still heard no word.
It's the most painful thing in the world to go from "i love you I want to marry you baby" to not acknowledging my existence. We are both 21, so yes I know we're young, but he had been so genuine and he doesn't sugar coat anything, so I know if he didn't love me, he would have just said so...
I've been suffering from panic attacks my whole life, but had not had an issue with them again until all of this happened. It feels as if my world crashed down. I live alone, I'm in a new state where all I have is a job so this makes things even more difficult. I do have hobbies, but cannot pursue riding horses at this time because I live in an apartment and can't afford to board a horse in town.
I wake up every morning thinking about every good and horrible thing we've gone through. After what he's done to me, I hate him, but I love him at the same time. My heart races, my stomach turns, I feel nauseous all day long and cannot eat like I used to.
I tried not making him my whole life, but I guess I felt what we had was so real, I never had to worry about him not being there. This all makes me sound pathetic, I know it does and I hate feeling this weak.
How can you love someone so much one day, and want nothing to do with them the next? And no, nothing changed. He changed. I know there isn't anotherr girl because his roommate wants to date me and I'm sure to get me to date him, he would tell me if there was another girl.
So now what? How can I get over this? I've bought books about breakups that have helped me on the whole outlook of this about how if we were so perfect, this wouldn't have happened.
But still...
anyone have any words of advice or encouragement? Anything would help. Sorry this was so long.

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Ida

July 03, 2011

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I know the feeling. When my ex broke up with me, I started to work out. I didn't join any clubs or so, I just ran in the neighborhood. It makes you feel better and it's free :) Oh and you should read a book or so, or watch something that makes you smile, to think about something else ;) Remember, he is not the only boy out there.

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aly

December 11, 2010

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sorry to say this but most likely he probly left you for someone else. same thing happened to me. me and my ex where engaged and he would always tell me how much he loved me and how he never wanted me to leave him, oh and we where young to, till one day he did the same thing lost complete contact with me out of no where. I got really sad wondering if he loved me so much why would he stop talking to me like this, come to find out he had found someone else. you have to be stong and have a lot of respect for yourself im leaving to the military and he does this to me right before i leave and i have to leave my family to a different environment, i do still love him but you have to keep you head up high because there is a reason why this happened...for greater opportunites to come..oh and karmas a bitch

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Maria

July 14, 2010

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I understand what your going through the exact same thing happened to me and it was very hard to deal with. It upsetting when someone who acts like they really love you or care about justy suddenly drops you. it just just leaves wondering about what happened or what did you do wrong. Sometimes you just have to think about the fact that there may have been something wrong with him not you. Because if a person doesn't appreciate your personality then maybe they didn't really deserve you.

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sped

July 12, 2010

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You may be 21 but you have the common sense of a 2 year old. He found another girl to fuck and he liked her better. He was being a pussy and trying to get you to break it off with him. Instead you hung on like a beaten puppy. You're making excuses -- 'his room mate would tell me if there was another girl' is total bullshit. It's always bros before hoes; the roomie was keeping quiet because he wants to get in your panties. You don't need to read books, you need to toughen up and realize that there is a big world out there after high school. You just aren't ready for it.

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Ashley

July 09, 2010

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Now you can really focus on you and making yourself happy. You don't want to be with someone who would just bounce out of your life like that. Its wrong and not fair and you have to know you deserve better. Guys are cowards and they don't know how to handle situations very well. I feel your pain, I really do, I can't eat or sleep and I cry at work, but I know that all of these breakups and relationships I have in life, are leading me to the right person who will love and appreciate me for me. You need to convince yourself and have hope that person is out there looking for you too. He's there and when you meet, you will forget all about this chump. Be happy and stay strong.

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Ashley

July 09, 2010

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We talked for hours, both of us bawling our eyes out. It was the worst night of my life. Never did I think that would be the last time I would see him. Never. I had no warning at all. He is an engineer and he thinks with his head and doesnt feel with his heart and I am the total opposite. I wear my heart on my shoulder and he at one point told me he is emotionally cold and was scared one day he would just stop liking me. Well, my worst fear came true. Looking back, he made me feel like I was always walking on eggshells and I didn't feel like myself. Im a kooky fun girl and he admired that, but I felt he was easily frustrated and was a perfectionist. He would get mad at me for not holding the steering wheel properly! Anyway, my point is, yes you are young and you did fall in love. Accept that its over. You should congratulate yourself on your breakup!

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Ashley

July 09, 2010

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I too am going through a similar break up. I met my x 2 years and and then we reconnected this past November. We had been dating for about 9 months and everything was awesome. We were hanging out all the time, we were doing family trips and planning all sorts of fun filled activities. We both complimented eachother and really taught eachother a few things about ourselves. So this past weekend, I was away with his family for the 4th, everything was great, we had plans for this weekend and plans to go to Block Island and talked about it in front of his family even! We drove home Monday night, I cooked him dinner, we watched a movie then BAM. He was like we have to talk

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Ann

July 09, 2010

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I went through hell getting over a breakup with my ex and all the feelings you feel about a month ago- we've all been there. My situation was a little different, we were engaged and I realized he had been emotionally abusing me for years but I wrote a list of all the things I wanted in a man and that really helped me (example: as into me as I am into him)- I actually joined an online dating site three days after the breakup to get my mind off my ex (really embarrassed to admit that) but ended up actually finding someone amazing. Might be worth a try, even just to talk to someone and build your confidence up again. Serious dating not a requirement. I had no intentions of actually meeting anyone. Also, music is very therapeutic: Garbage- special, Rob Thomas- Mockingbird, Jaron and the Long Road to Love- I pray for you (when you're angry). To sum this up, it hurts like hell but you're not alone, you will get through this, you will probably go through a similar grieving process as you do when someone you cares about dies but it won't last forever (I promise!!!) and although it seems like he was "Mr. Right", he wasn't if he hurt you like that. You will find someone better- I can't emphasize that enough!

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Christy Lyons

July 06, 2010

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I completely understand how you feel with the love/hate that's going on right now. I'm in the same spot and its horrible.

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