You Broke Up How?

Brandon

February 10, 2014 @ (Portland, OR)

Tags: worst breakup, jerk, idiot, heart breaker, regretful

So, I had been dating this girl for about six months with a two month break in between, let's call her "Jackie". It was when we got back together I realized that things weren't going to work. She said that we just need to communicate more, but it never happened, we always just sat in awkward silence until one of us had to leave.
Before we get to the actual break-up, I want to do a little back-story. So a few years back my friends introduced me to this girl, not the one I broke up with, let's call her "Amanda." Amanda was a nice girl from the very start, She invited me to all her parties, and helped me out with my homework and essays. She was funny, she would often make fun of my now best friend, "Franklin," which I found hilarious. She was also super smart, she had one of the highest GPAs in the school, and passed even the most advanced classes. And I swear she is the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, and to this day I am deeply in love with her. Unfortunately, when I told her about my feelings, she dropped the F-Bomb on me. Yep, that was my first ever "friend-zone." I was crushed, I never felt so terrible in my life. But I stayed adamant, and year after year I would ask her, and year after year she denied me. I realize that she can make whatever choice she wants, but I couldn't help but to want to be with her. I guess she must have gotten tired of me asking, because after the fourth confession, she suggested I go out with Jackie, whom I had met a month earlier. I knew she had a thing for me, and Amanda said we would be cute together. I don't know why, but the words "cute together" hit me really hard. Just the thought of being with someone other than her felt wrong. Things did go wrong eventually, I guess that's what happens when you go out with someone because the love of your life asks you to. I probably should have seen that coming. After dancing with Jackie at one of the parties, I became infatuated with her. I asked her out on a date, and she of course said yes. Now I had never gone out on a date before so I didn't know exactly what to do. And no one told me that movie dates are the worst first date you could go on. We sat in the theater eating our popcorn, eyes glued to the screen, not even looking at each other; the first of many awkward experiences. The worst part was that Amanda offered to drive us around since neither I or Jackie bothered to learn how to. Amanda couldn't have been more happy to see me going out with another girl, which I understand is something friends do, but when that friend has recently broken your heart, it kinda stings a little.
Fast forward four months. Now at this point we've decided to break things off for a while. Jackie has started dating this guy, let's call him "Matt." I had no problem with Jackie dating Matt, in fact I was happy that she found someone she could actually talk to. Matt and I are also good friends so, I was happy for both of them. Now with no one to distract my feelings, I began to feel old emotions rising again, I would often hang out with Amanda like we used to, but not in a way that would give any hints, just talking, and study sessions. I should have realized then that this was what it was meant to be like. Being single wasn't a bad thing, in fact I love being single. It makes you appreciate all the free time you once had to hang out with friends and get work done. This didn't last very long, because Jackie and Matt eventually broke up. I never got the exact details of why or how, but I do know that Jackie broke up with Matt, because she realized that she still loved me even though she was the one who broke up with me for Matt in the first place. Matt explained to me that he cared for her, and he wanted to see her happy, and that I should take her back. And I, being the stupid confused kid at the time, said "of course." And so, we began dating each other once more. The rekindled infatuation didn't last long, and I realized about a month in that things weren't going to work. Now came the biggest problem, how to break it to her. Now, just because I wasn't in love with Jackie doesn't mean I didn't care about her. She was genuinely sweet and innocent, and I couldn't bare to see her sad or upset.
It was only a few weeks later that I built up the courage to tell her, mind you I gave no clue as to how I really felt, in fact I made it seem like everything was just dandy, which in hindsight wasn't the best idea. Of course, when I told her she was really confused. She asked me "Why? Why?" and I said "I'm sorry, I just don't think you're the one for me." At this point her sadness began to turn to anger. Something I had never seen in her before suddenly began to show. She said, "how dare you have the audacity to lead me on for so long. You know what? Fuck you." The words "fuck you" would have hurt less if she hadn't smiled and started walking away. But as I sat there, ashamed of what I had done, she did the worst thing she could have done to me. She turned back with tears running down her face and said, "I really did love you." And continued walking away. That must have been one of the worst days of my life. Eventually the sadness subsided, and she forgot all about me, which was probably for the best. Not once in our whole relationship did we ever say "I love you" to one another. But if I could go back and change what I did, I would have never gone out with her. I would have never gotten back together with her. I would have never led her on to believe that I loved her. And I would have never broken her heart.

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Michele

December 29, 2009 @ (PA)

Tags: counseling, eharmony, wedding

I had been in a relationship with my fiance for 3.5 years when he decided to move to TX after losing his job. He returned a couple months later but basically I had already emotionally detached from him leaving and him not talking to me while he was away. We went to couples counseling while I went on eharmony. I told a mutual about a couple dates I had went on (her husband was a close friend of my ex). A few months after I had forgotten about the eharmony stint my friend's husband tells my ex what had happened (right around the time the therapy was starting to work). One day after therapy he takes me to a park (we never did anything romantic) to have 'the talk' with me. He asked me if I had something to tell him...and I literally didnn't remember going on eharmony at this point..it was so long ago. We talk for a couple hours...more than he ever communicated before. He didn't break up with me, but he wanted to take some time. I texted him a week later, and a week after that, and a week after that - the last time asking if he wanted the ring back. And then I discontinued our relationship on facebook. I talked to him later and he didn't even notice, and he "never got" my texts...he was planning to talk to me to tell me his decision... 3 months after I broke up with him...at our mutual friends wedding (above).

Nicole

September 06, 2016 @ (Spokane, WA)

Tags: Bad Break Up

I was dating this guy for 9 months when I had a feeling things were getting difficult. I kept having dreams that he would cheat on me.. one day he said he needed "space" even though we had only seen each other twice in three weeks! He told me, "I don't want you spending the night tomorrow night because I just want to get tons of sleep. I have a late flight and when you come in you always make too much noise.,, and it wakes me up and I can't sleep for an hour. He had never had a problem with any of this before so I thought it was suspicious.. my best friend convinced me that we should park down the street from his house to see if he would actually come home.. We did. He never showed up.. it was 2 40 in the morning and he had not come home... I left and confronted him the next day and when he claimed he got home at 12 30 the previous night (during our stake out) I knew he had cheated. He confessed after 10 minutes of me drilling him. We haven't spoken since...

Jada

October 07, 2016 @ (Selma AL)

Tags: Bad breakup

I liked this boy every since 4th grade. I dated him but didn't work out well. So we started again in a different grade. Only thing I was worried about was people knowing. I didn't like people knowing who I went with I ain't very popular. So I loved him so much he told me how much he loved me. He made poems. He called me babe. Everything I wanted until he got tired of lying to people. So some people started to know wasn't bad until they started to say it everyday. He got tired of lying so I was at the fair and we called each other. After the phone call this happened. "Do love our relationship" "Yes" "Then why are you hiding it" "Cause people are getting on my nerves" "We are done" "Ok I don't care". Inside I really did cared and loved him.

Jennifer

December 31, 2019 @ (Temecula California)

Tags: Bad breakup

I liked this guy a lot and he liked me back and we were pretty young but there was just this connection between us and he was almost perfect for me but the problem was my parents didn't know soon enough they found out and we had to break up, but a few months later my parents decided we could date again and we were both super excited! But as we got on he got more aggressive I don´t mean to brag but I come from a wealthy family so I get a good amount of money and I told him about that because I was clueless and Didn't think it through and the aggression started, It wasn't Anything Physical it was Verbal he would always get mad at me when other people were not around and my parents had not clue any of this was going on,I was too afraid to tell them but the problems only got worse because I started to grow irritated and one day we were fighting and he smacked me across the head and that´s when it got worse. Whenever I was with him my heart would drop and I just felt empty and sad. i asked my parents about it and that´s when I got the truth. I was born with Broken Heart Syndrome and it can get worse due to traumatic Experiences my parents let me date this boy again because he made me happy and they thought it could help my problem. That´s when I decided I had to end it before this would end up KILLING me so I ended it, I am now beginning to recover from this but I will NEVER be the same.

Broken :(

April 04, 2011 @ (Indiana)

Tags: Him

Yesterday....
I left the man I love because I knew he wasn't happy anymore. The hardest thing ive ever done...

Today....
I'm hoping he's happy cuz Im not ...
I gave him one last hug and cried all the way driving home.

I'm 16. Love shouldn't be like this.

Kim

September 20, 2012 @ (BLOCKED)

Tags: (BLOCKED)

I was with the guy named, Don H. We met the first week Don moved into our neighborhood in (BLOCKED). I was 25. We dated off and on for about a year and a half. He denies that he was seeing anyone else but, I know he was sleeping with at least one other neighbor. We had great times together. He was always partying. He was always throwing parties and barbeques and stuff. He worked a lot at his brokerage but I think he was lying. I think he was sleeping with his admin. I met her she was maybe 20. He was always out on the boat but I never went with him. Kidding me!? In the end I knew he was cheating. So obvious. So, I confronted him about what I thought was going on. He invited me over and we had a great time. He actually told me he missed the memo we were exclusive. We had some drinks by the pool. It was a beautiful night. We had sex outside. Then again in the shower. Then again upstairs in his room for half the night. When I woke-up he was already dressed. Tying his tie. Hot. He left a note on a Post-It Said we were done. Are you f-ing kidding me!? A Post-It! My God who does that?

Taylor

December 24, 2016 @ (North Dakota )

Tags: Breakup

Me and my boyfriend were together for 2 years. I thought I loved him but honestly he is the reason love isn't real for me. This summer he just totally forgot about what we had, but since it didn't bother him I didn't let it bother me or so I acted. He flirted with girls, laughed, hugged, and kissed them as well. I really am now getting over it but he taught me that love isn't real so I can thank him for that. I also just wish this whole relationship never happened as well!

Jocelyn

December 15, 2009 @ (pittsburgh)

Tags: etcc

My ex and I had dated on and off for five years, and just last month he went out with some friends from high school. I didn't go out partially cuz I wasn't feeling well, and partially cuz my ex-best friend was going to be there. Well, I found out that night from one of my friends that was there that my bf and my ex-best friend fucked around all night long. They had messed around at the bars, the taxi, and then he went to her house. I tried calling him but his phone was off. The next morning he leaves me a voicemail to call him because we needed to talk about something important. I ignored his calls, texts, voicemails, and knocks on the door for two weeks. I was so hurt, and in a depressed angry state of mind, I slept with two guys over that two week period. Then I find out he's taking my ex-best friend to court because she drugged him with ecstasy that night. I'm pretty mixed up and not sure how to feel, I can see how a drug could lower your morals, but he should have known what was going on and knew it was wrong, and I feel terrible cuz I didn't know that before I slept with those guys

Britney

November 26, 2016 @ (michigan)

Tags: #bitchthoughtwrong #tf #dontfuckwithmethewrongway

Hi everyone my name is Britney,
That bitch off a boyfriend had left me for a hoe she look like a pig and she dress like she rolled in a pill off dog shit didn't take a shower in 4 weeks and she lives in the trailer park i'm so disapointed in him he probably only wants her because she looks like a prostitute and i think she secretly works as stripper for money and, did i mention she try to were clothes that are like 5 sizes to small for her she try so hard and she don't even know how to put makeup on she was wearing neon green lipstick, yellow wig, and bright sparkling purple eyeshadow . so i saw that scank in fucking McDonalds and i fucking pushed that he so hard on the ground and her 3 bigmacs and 2 large fries on the ground and a apple pie. that shit went flying. That whale bitch so heavy son, and so i said are you the whore that slept with my man in my bed and she was like ya and so i went and picked up her apple fucking pie and and flung her weave from here to fucking Canada and crumbled the pie on the dry ass head. so then that week i went and learned how to shot a gun and acually got one too for a bitch who wanna fucking wit this bitch. but anyways i went to my ex's/my old apartment to get ll my stuff right? no, that whore was n my Tempur-pedic 1,000 dollar fucking bed . and that shit was so wet looking i said , bitch apparently you cum all the way fro Africa cause my bed is ruined. when i saw her ugly as i looked at her one more time and i said how you just gonna ruin my bad and she had the damn nerve to say that it was hers and you know what my ass fucking did was say get the fuck off my bad you have 3 seconds and she said no her ass not moving so my ass leaped across the room into that ed and i pulled put that gun that i was saving for that day she was begging me not to shot her she was on her knees and saying please don't shot me and i was like why shouldn't i, you took my man so instead of shooting her i took her to the park and made her like the entire sidewalk and then put a diaper on and sit in the middle of Walmart saying i'm a slut /hoe and i suck dick for living so i took her home and her ass was crying and so mad she started cussing at me so i slapped her so had i think that bitch flew to Africa. that bitch fucking thought she was gonna get away.