Just The Way You Are

October 11, 2011 @ (CA)

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It's not really a break up, Im just in desperate need for advice. It all started October last year. I was staying at one of my mums friends houses and her son and I only knew eachother because of our parents work together. He is 17 and a highschool dropout. I'm 15 and still currently doing my studies. That night he went out with a couple of mates. For some peculiar reason I asked him to wake me when he got home. When he did he woke me and we spooned on his bed talking about whatever came to mind. He was so sweet, a side I've never seen from him before. After that experience we never really spoke again. Until about a week ago when I foundmyself in the same position. This time it got sexual. Only he was to big for me, so we didn't end up having sex. He was the first person id engaged with in doing stuff like that. I wasn't his first though. It was kinda strange. I felt so comfortable around him, I could be myself and not be self conscious like I normally am around others, and all my previous boyfriends. After that night we didn't speak again until two nights ago. I layer with him and drew circles on his leg, it was tickling him, and he was so cute. Just before we fell asleep he grabbed my hand and placed it on his crouch. After that he didnt speak to me ever again. I think I've fallen for him, but I can't help to think that he is just in it for the fun and the sexual side of things. I don't think he admires me as a person.he only admires what I can do with my hands. But his the type of person that if he did have feelings for me, he'd never let me know. His quite a big build. But I really want him to know that I love him for who he is, not what he looks like , or what he has achieved. I love him for him. As simple as it gets. His friends are complete drop kicks. And he values what they think. I have a feeling that's why his holding back. I don't know what to do, and advice would be great?! Thanks xo


       


 

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Just the way you are

October 23, 2011


Thankyou so much. This is such great advice. I really don't think I'm going to bother with him. I'll just ignore him. He had his chance. Hopefully he'll realize I loved him for him. Nothing else. His the one missing out


     


stephanie

October 21, 2011


Whoa i gotta say i know his type. Believe me it's fun during the moment but by the way u've explained it it really seems that he's just in it for the sex. It sucks because i know you must really have strong feelings for him but you need to understand that if you do anything more then what u've done with him so far you will deeply regret it. (i can say this from experience) and if you feel that he might actually like/love you, then make him work for the sexual stuff don't give it up too easy or thats what he'l think of you. Its really no fun being used well Idk if this was any help but i thought i'd just respond :)


     


Stephanie

October 21, 2011


Whoa i gotta say i know his type. Believe me it's fun during the moment but by the way u've explained it it really seems that he's just in it for the sex. It sucks because i know you must really have strong feelings for him but you need to understand that if you do anything more then what u've done with him so far you will deeply regret it. (i can say this from experience) and if you feel that he might actually like/love you, then make him work for the sexual stuff don't give it up too easy or thats what he'l think of you. Its really no fun being used well Idk if this was any help but i thought i'd just respond :)


     


Unknown

October 13, 2011


My Pleasure! :) I don't think it would be rushing... He could feel the same way for you too! Just be like ''I had a weird dream that we were dating...'' make it casual. If you decide to let your friend know you like him, don't act desperate!! If you see a slight hint of interest in him, let him take the lead. He should persure you then.


     


Just The Way You Are

October 13, 2011


Thankyou so much for your advice. Maybe he'll notice what he had. Come to think of it, there is a guy friend like that. I just don't know whether that would be rushing thing or not? Too soon?


     


Unknown

October 13, 2011


Yeah gurl, there's a decent guy out there!! They're usually where you don't expect them... Like those close guy friends that ''are just friends''. Trust me, he's some where out there. This guy's only affectionate when it suits him! You need a guy that's affectionate ALL THE TIME!! He's using you!! It doesn't make a difference if I pass a few of my tests through out the school year, right? The same thing with this guy, he's being affectionate only when he wants to! That shouldn't make you think he's actually genuine... Like I said before, you should ditch him. If you decide to roll with him, it'll end up in heartbreak! No doubt about it, I've been through a similar situation. You shouldn't think you can change this guy, because you can't!! He should be willing to change for you, not the other way around! Hope I helped. :)


     


Just THe Way You Are

October 13, 2011


Thankyou so much. I don't know. It's kinda hard to figure out. I really do think there is a decent guy deep down. I don't know, maybe his to scared to open up? Too cool? Sometimes he just seems to affectionate for there not to be any feelings for me? His nice to me around his mates, sometimes. It just annoys me because we can't just lay together without it having some type of sexual involvement. Being a player is pretty much all he knows. I wonder if I can show him that that's not the only way to be. I said to him if he wanted a girlfriend, or if that wasnt cool? And he replied and said that that's all his ever wanted. But me being that girl? I'm not to sure. I don't want to get involved with him. Only because of the influence that his dropkick friends have on his behaviour. I don't want to get hurt, but I'm sure that's the only path this will take me.


     


Unknown

October 12, 2011


Wow gurl... I think you've pretty much sumed it up for yourself... I'm sorry to say but this guy aint no good!! He only talks to you when it suits him. Ask yourself, do you really deserve a guy who uses you as he pleases? Clearly this guy wants more from you, & that's sex. It's up to you to decide whether you'll let a guy who's clearly not deserving of you at all use you!! It's obvious to see that this guy is a player & has many other gurls on the side!! You deserve a guy who won't use you, who won't send you mixed signals or be with other gurls while he's with you. You deserve soooo much better than what he's giving you!! You sound like such an AMAZING gurl!! :) Because you're amazing- you deserve amazing!! Ditch this guy because he doesn't truly like/love you for who you really are!! Like I said, you deserve a whole lot better!! You're still young, take it easy with this boyfriend stuff... One day you'll find a guy who's just amazing as you are!! Don't give up hope :) Xoxo