Rosie

August 04, 2010 @ (USA)

Tags: pregnancy, birthday


Today is my 16th birthday. I'm five months pregnant; my boyfriend (well, ex now) and I had been going out for nearly a year. I loved him very much. We did everything together, even well into the pregnancy. He said we'd always be together, etc. He went out of town and I didn't see him for two weeks, during which time he didn't contact me at all. When he got back, he was frustrating and distant. But yesterday, he came over and said he wanted to take a step back because he was overwhelmed with how I've become a different person (of course I have; I'm pregnant and the stress he's putting on me is only making it worse). We compromised by agreeing to still hang out once or twice a week, not see anybody else, and let our relationship rebuild itself naturally. But he agreed to take me out to dinner and a movie today, since it's my birthday. It would be kind of like a first date all over again. And I was OK with that. I waited all day for him. When he was hours late, I finally texted him. Over a text message, he told me he was busy with some other girl and that we shouldn't see each other anymore. The baby will be born in a few months, at which point she'll go to live with adoptive parents. And I thought THAT on its own would be painful enough....


       


 

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Lonely lifelong

April 21, 2013


Hi rosie!I even had my baby at 16,she is the most amazing feeling and the most beautiful thing i've ever known or seen,i have provided her with every need,and mostly love,i have completed school also,and its not a mistake if you did it in love,atleast if you love her,i dont give a shit my baby daddy is not with me,i have looked after my baby without him,and i'm sure its much better,my daughters smiles are what i all day see and trust me,nothing makes me much happier to see those white little teeths,rosie,i am sure you have missed all these special moments if u had your baby to live with adoptive parents,after she grows she may not tell you,but she will have that complaint killing her all life,my baby girl is the happiest,cause i've never let her away from me since her birth,she is happy,i'm happy sause she is,but the fact still remines that i love and atill want my baby daddy,but i'm happy,cause i'm living with my only angel!think about it rosie,never meant to let you down,trust me,good luck and wish you all the best!


     


katt

December 30, 2010


Ok, this was in Aug, its now almost Jan...did u give her up?? do u still talk to that asshole baby daddy??? I had my son * 17 and I still finished school, with honors and worked...to this day I work for him!! I got pregnant the day i lost my virginity n the condom broke...i did my precautions n i knew that i shouldnt have even had sex at that age but i was young n dumb...does that mean my kid has to pay for my mistakes?? I grew up n fast!! thankfully, his dad stuck around n was just as mature as me n provided for us...our son will be 11 next month n is our oride n joy!! him n his lil brother are my reasons for living n waking up each day, go to work, n be the best mommy I can be, cuz they didnt ask for this life, so i have to make it the best as possible for them...i truly hope ur on birth control now!!


     


nana

September 09, 2010


wow i think you are really stupid for giving up your baby!!"i want the best life for her" wow dont you think the best life would to be with you! i had myy baby at 16 & i have given her everything i could im still going to school & its all for her think about it.would you have liked to be adoptive? no i dont think so so grow up & deal with the fact that you are having a child even if the father isnt there you need to grow up & open your eyes because you sound stupid! i am now 17 & i dont care what people think of me!


     


Valley Smoker

September 05, 2010


does this guy happen to be a "brother"?


     


mummyfoker

August 29, 2010


wow you fucked up


     


sped

August 15, 2010


Didn't they teach you to keep your legs togther in middle school? Or about condoms? Maybe next time you won't be such an easy fuck. But probably not, I doubt that you learned anything from this


     


Chico Rush

August 11, 2010


thats what i was getting at when i said having choices is nice.at 15 Rosie has a choice about what to do with the baby.for her adoption was the best one.other than pettitioning the court for full custody her ex-boyfriend,who i'm assuming is close in age to her(15-17),would have no other choice but to become a parent if she had chosen to keep the baby.it's nice when someone else doesn't get to decide when you become a parent.


     


Ann

August 10, 2010


I agree with you that taking precautions before having sex is a must but at 15- before your driving and typically when your too ashamed to even walk down the tampon aisle at Walmart, it's less likely to happen. I'm not trying to put Rosie down by saying this, but it's a scientific fact that teenagers brains are less developed and less likely to weigh the discomfort they're feeling one moment against the major reprecussions later on. Love shouldn't be an excuse for not taking precautions and getting pregnant at 15 is a huge issue. (not financially prepared, not emotionally prepared)It's not easy to give up your child for adoption though (unless your a drug addict, in the case of my adopted brother). Adopting a child out at 15 isn't walking away from responsibility, it's being mature enough to know your limitations and know how they're going to impact another little human being.


     


Rosie

August 10, 2010


And by the way, the adoption will be open... so I'll still be able to see my daughter and explain to her (once she's old enough) that I love her and always have, but I just couldn't be her mom. It might seem like an entirely different issue, but I think that it's partly a way to try to make up for my mistakes in the best way I can.


     


Ansi Jose

August 10, 2010


chico, u seem to be so inconsiderate. getting pregnant is not a big issue when u r in love. it happens. when two people are living together, there are much more things to be looked into other than taking precaution. loving someone and living with him is not just about thinking how not to get pregnant. the misfortune happened with her is her breakup, not her pregnancy.